Practice
Use the system for yourself
Reading is a start, but the system works when you practice it. Chat with our AI Guide and Mentor for hands-on, step-by-step help right here on the site, or use the free interactive tools below.
Solution Seeking Guide
Walks you through the system to navigate a specific conflict and find a great solution: resolving conflicts, understanding yourself, and planning productive communication, step by step.
Open the GuideSolution Seeking Mentor
Helps you with anything related to the system: explaining the framework, the 3-step protocol, the Wisdom Principles, and the Leadership Tools (or building your own).
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Modes
Who is the conversation with?
Every relationship has its own dynamic. Pick your role (parent, teacher, partner, manager) and the Guide starts already adapted to it.
Parent mode
A conflict with your child, adapted to their age and your role.
Teacher mode
A situation with a student, adapted to your duty of care.
Partner mode
A conflict with your partner: the fight that keeps coming back.
Family mode
Adult family conflict: siblings, parents, in-laws, old history.
Friend mode
A rupture or drift with a friend: repair without the weirdness.
Manager mode
A situation with someone who reports to you.
Co-worker mode
Friction with a peer: influence without authority.
Organizer mode
Conflict inside a shared cause, where people can just leave.
See it in action
What a conversation actually produces
Annotated example conversations, fictional but true to how the assistants work, showing what someone walks away with. When one looks like your situation, you can start your own conversation from it.
The employee who kept arriving late
A team lead is fed up after the fourth late arrival this month, and has already decided what it means.
Read the conversation → 🧭 Guide demoThe manager who kept adding work
An individual contributor whose manager keeps piling on projects without changing priorities, and who's afraid that pushing back will look like weakness.
Read the conversation → 🧭 Guide demoThe coworker who snapped
Someone tried to help a coworker in a meeting and got snapped at in front of everyone. Now they're stewing and want an apology.
Read the conversation →Interactive tools
Practice each part of the system
Guided, in-browser tools so you can practice the system directly on this site. Everything stays private on your device.
Guided Introspection
Walk through the 7-step Introspection process with prompts, and produce a prep summary for your conversation.
Open the tool →Conversation Planner
A Mutual Understanding checklist and question bank to prepare for a difficult conversation.
Open the tool →Solution Builder
Check a drafted solution against the Actionable, Testable, Effective, and Time-bound criteria.
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